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A female pastor has sparked reactions online after stating that women should learn to enjoy sex within marriage and experience orgasm.
The pastor made the remarks in a viral video while speaking about sex, marriage and the importance of sexual knowledge among married couples.
‘God created sex’
According to her, sexual pleasure is part of what God intended when He created sex, stressing that women have the right to enjoy intimacy in marriage.
“If you die without experiencing orgasm, you’ve lived a wasted life. I like to say to women when I teach about sex that any woman, even if you’ve been married for 100 years, if you die without experiencing orgasm, you’ve lived a wasted life.
“God created sex, God instituted sex, and as a woman, you have the right to enjoy orgasm.”
She added that women should be willing to learn about sex rather than assume that marriage and childbirth automatically provide sufficient knowledge.
‘I got married as a virgin’
The pastor also shared her personal experience, revealing that she entered marriage as a virgin and initially knew little about sex beyond what she had learnt from biology.
“There is a need to learn. A time came after a few years in a marriage because I’m a good girl. I’ve never known bad things.
“I got married as a virgin. The only thing I know about sex is biology. Nothing else.”
She explained that after having a child, she eventually realised that she needed to gain more knowledge about intimacy within marriage.
“And it came to a point in my marriage, and sex is not about having children because at the time where I became aware that I needed to learn about sex, I’d already had a child.
“And I knew that, okay, I need to understand because this is a body of knowledge. Is it like a university?”
‘There are women ready to do the things you cannot do’
The pastor said her decision to learn more about sex began after she encountered educational material on the subject.
She recalled initially resisting such teachings because she considered herself a morally upright woman.
“When I started to learn about sex in marriage as a married woman, one of the first videos I saw from somebody who was going to teach about sex, she said, all of you married women, I was guilty.
“I was just like, you don’t want to do what you are supposed to do? I’m not learning.”
She said she later understood the need for couples to pay attention to their sexual relationship, warning that neglecting a spouse’s needs could create room for problems within a marriage.
“In Yoruba, it means we will lick it for you. Like if you leave your husband, there are wolves.
“There are women, ladies ready to do the things that you cannot do.”
The pastor concluded by stating that she believes God permits couples to explore different approaches to intimacy within marriage.
“And God is not against other styles in marriage.”
Watch the video here…
“If you d!e without experiencing orgàsm, you have lived a wasted life” – Pastor says pic.twitter.com/ImwBjnzEkv
— YabaLeftOnline (@yabaleftonline) October 3, 2026